Faith-based life coaching for girls aged 8-13

Helping your anxious daughter find her calm, confident shine again

When worry dims her light, it can feel impossible to reach her. I help girls build real confidence and calm their anxious thoughts, and I give parents simple, gentle tools to support them at home.

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A relaxed chat with you first, so we can talk about your daughter

For worried parents

Working through anxiety with your daughter can feel so hard

So often, the moment you most want to reach her is the moment she closes off. Everything in you wants to sit her down and solve it. But when she is anxious, what she needs first is to feel safe and calm again.

You're not alone, and she's not "too much". This is very common, and there is a gentle way through.

Mary, Shiny Minds Coaching

A mother holding her child close against a soft sky

Tummy aches before school

Sunday night wobbles, test nerves or dread before a club she isn't sure about.

Perfectionism that never switches off

Feeling she is only as good as her last result, because fear is dressed up as high standards.

Comparing herself to everyone

Looking at other girls to decide how she is doing, instead of remembering who she is.

Shy, frozen or closed off

Coping okay on the outside, but quietly anxious inside and struggling to say why.

Meet Mary

Hi, I'm Mary. I once was that shy child.

"On the outside I seemed to be coping okay..."

That is why Shiny Minds exists. I know how it feels to be the quiet girl whose light is dimmed by anxious thoughts, and I know how much it means when someone helps you shine again.

As a teacher, in the classroom, I've repeatedly met girls who remind me of my younger self. I've seen how these children's needs often go unmet.

As a mum, I've spent many hours reassuring my own daughters in their battles with worries and anxious thoughts.

As a Christian, I believe that worry is very common and that each child struggling with it has immeasurable worth.

As a life coach, I am continually learning about the functioning of our brains and their amazing ability to form new pathways, adapt and reframe negative thoughts.

Teacher for 16 years Mum of girls Faith-based approach

What your daughter learns

Small, brave tools that help her feel calm and confident

Coaching gives her practical, child-friendly ways to handle big feelings, and you get the same tools to use together at home.

A mother and daughter laughing together on the sofa

Get to know her fears, her values and her hopes, and work as a team towards a happier place.

Calm body first

Slow breathing, deep-pressure hugs and gentle movement that help her nervous system settle before anything else.

Regulate, then reason

Thoughts are not facts

Learning to stop, name her worried thoughts and gently question them, instead of believing every "what if".

Take thoughts captive

Anchored in who she is

Replacing comparison with truth: she is fearfully and wonderfully made, and her worth is not her last result.

Psalm 139:14

Brave steps

Facing fears one small, achievable step at a time, so school, clubs and new places feel possible again.

Without making it worse

Letting go of perfect

Seeing perfectionism for what it often is, fear in disguise, and learning that mistakes are part of growing.

Progress over perfect

Support for you, too

Simple words and routines for home, so you know what to say when she is worried and how to help her feel safe.

Parents included

How it works

A gentle path from worried to brave

Every girl is different, so coaching is shaped around your daughter, at a pace that feels safe for her.

Free 30-minute chat

You tell me about your daughter and what she is facing. No pressure, just a conversation.

A plan made for her

Together we agree on what would help most, from anxious thoughts to confidence or perfectionism.

1:1 coaching sessions

Warm, fun and practical sessions where she learns her calming and brave-thinking tools.

Growing at home

You get simple ways to keep supporting her, so the progress carries on between sessions.

Let's chat about your daughter

Rooted in faith

Faith woven in gently

God doesn't ask us to hide away from feeling sad or worried, but to bring it to Him. Shiny Minds blends what science teaches about anxious young brains with the comfort and truth of scripture, offered in a gentle, child-friendly way.

When feelings are allowed, they lose their power. When she knows who she is in God, she has an anchor that comparison can't move.

"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."PSALM 34:18

Try this tonight

3 calming ideas for a buzzing evening

Back-to-school nerves, Sunday night wobbles or a big test tomorrow? Here are three things you can try together.

Hot chocolate breathing

Before drinking, smell it deeply, then blow slowly to cool it down. It naturally slows her breathing.

A parent hugging a child under a cosy blanket

An enormous, squeezy hug

Deep pressure can feel calming and organising for many children when their body is buzzing.

Sway in the kitchen

Put on a slow piece of music and sway around together. Moving gently helps the body calm down.

Questions parents ask

Good to know

Who is Shiny Minds coaching for?

Girls aged 8-13 who are struggling with worry, shyness, perfectionism or low confidence, and the parents who want to help them. You don't need a diagnosis to book a chat.

What happens on the free 30-minute call?

It is a relaxed conversation with you, the parent. You tell me about your daughter and what she is facing, I share how coaching could help, and you decide if it feels right. There is no obligation.

Will I be involved as a parent?

Yes. Parents make all the decisions and bookings, and you will get simple tools and language to keep supporting your daughter at home between sessions.

How is faith part of the coaching?

My coaching is rooted in Christian faith and offered gently. We draw on scripture for comfort and identity, alongside practical, child-friendly tools for calming anxious thoughts.

Is coaching the same as therapy?

No. Coaching focuses on building confidence and practical coping tools. If your daughter needs clinical support, please speak to your GP, and I'm happy to talk through what might be the best fit on our call.

Your next step

Let's help her light shine again

Let's chat for 30 minutes and see how I can support your daughter. It is free, relaxed, and all about her.

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